The assignment is to find 3 blog posts that have been written by my classmates; but they have to correspond with the topics of Gender/Sexuality, Class, Race, and our Canadian Identity. Picking which blogs to work on was difficult because of everyone having different pasts. Being able to relate to everyone in my class is something that could almost be impossible because I might have been through something similar but having the end result end up being completely different. I read through different posts of my classmates and I honestly only found a few that I could relate to. The blog posts that I have chosen do not relate to me immediately, and I do not understand the way that the writers of the posts would have felt at the occurring times of their stories, but I could try and imagine what they were going through. The similarities that the posts show is what I think our gender has taught us. We have gone through 3 different lives and they all impact us in a very similar way because we are females.
The main one that stood out to me was written by Jade. The one post that she had that I could relate to would be her “Class” post. She describes “Christmas being a stressful time”, and showing that a time of celebration, hope and love could honestly be negative in different households. My childhood at Christmas time wasn’t easy, but I defiantly didn’t have to deal with the things that Jade had gone through. I can relate to the way that Jade is living with a single mother and how much that it can affect the whole connection between mother and daughter. My mother and I had been alone for 13 years, and she was always having two or three different jobs just so that it would be possible for me to have a great Christmas; with the brand new presents under the tree. Jade and I have minor similarities, but they could have affected us in the same way.
Then when reading Samara’s blog, I had many connections and or similarities, especially in the gender blog. We both have similar pasts when it came to birthday parties, I would often have girls at the parties unless we went to “It’s a Blast” or at the beach. Whenever I was having the party at my house it would always just be girls, simply because it would usually be a sleepover. Growing up from birth to about age 10 I was wearing dresses and Tiaras but after my tenth birthday, my whole appearance changed. I started wearing sweatpants and converse and baggy bunnyhugs. I never wore makeup or played with dolls. I was playing outside with the boys in the neighborhood. We would play basketball outside until it was dark out and nobody ever questioned it. I never realized that people could have possibly been questioning if I was a lesbian. I never realized that people could have had an issue with it, until moving to Vibank. A small town, like is described in Samara’s story. Everybody knows everyone. Doesn’t matter who you are, but you are known. It was and is still today, very old-fashioned. Which can be scary, if people were to “break” the childhood that Samara and I grew up with.
The similarities that Jade, Samara and I all share is very small, but we do all have a certain connection within our pasts. The female role models in our lives have a huge impact on the way that we were raised. Every story has demonstrated the ways that our mothers have influenced us to be a female in our society. Every blog that I have posted, I have always made a reference towards my mother simply because she raised me alone. She is the reason for who I am today. The titles for my gender, class, and race were made more me the moment I was born. I was put into the cute pink sparkly outfits because I was a girl, but my actions were never questioned until I turned into a teenager because I am a lady. Between all the blogs that we have written for the class that is based on the topics ( race, Canadian identity, social status, gender, etc) we all have a very strong connection to being a female. We all describe how being a female is chosen for us. For Jade, she shows this in her The Impact of Gender Roles blog and she describes how “she could play with the dolls with her sister, but if her brother began to play with them then he would have been a F*ggot in her father’s eyes.”
ii) Creating Counterstories: Disrupting normative narratives
When I read this, I begin to think ” what in the world would cause this thought [the thought of boys wanting to play with ‘ girl toys’] to be such a disturbing idea to those who raise us?” Nobody has ever said that boys have to play with boy toys like trucks or skateboards, and girls can only touch barbies and makeup. It just became the “normal” within our society. Several people that I know, including myself, have broken these normal gendered and or class events. I know that when I was growing up I played on a male softball team and there were only 2 other girls on the team. Most of the boys didn’t like us girls playing on the team ” because girls can’t run fast enough”… Well literally that week all of us girls got like 2 home runs and we were winning within our league. But because I grew up with a single mother, I couldn’t afford to play anymore so I had to quit the team. The boys on that team from what I comprehend, they all believed in patriarchy, which is: the belief in the inherent superiority of men and male norms and the organization of society based on this belief. (Sensoy & DiAngelo, pg 103)
The way that modern society is demonstrating ‘class” and ‘gender’ to the newest generations, is honestly fairly negative. I have witnessed an 11-year old that is on Facebook, looking at a video of a homeless woman, and all that was said was ” well she should just get a job then she wouldn’t be in that situation.” This showed me that the new generation doesn’t always think about the past of people. That woman on the Facebook video was a veteran who had lost her house, due to bankruptcy. She was dealing with PTSD and she didn’t have enough money to seek treatment, let alone get a job. The normal for society in today’s world would honestly be to shut your mouth and you’ll be fine. I believe that we should speak out for the people that can’t, maybe because of their skin or gender or religion. The perspective changes with every true story that one will read. The textbook say, ” When we think about what class positions we hold, we might initially focus solely on our economics- that is, being rich or being poor…” (Sensoy & DiAngelo. pg 160) This statement shows that teh current society that we live in is based on number and symbols, which would be the normative; that we all have to deal with in our every day lives.
Sensoy, Özlem, and Robin J. DiAngelo. Is Everyone Really Equal?: an Introduction to Key Concepts in Social Justice Education. Teachers College Press, 2017.
Stenson, Samara. (2018) Life before I was born. https://samarastenson.wordpress.com/
Courtenay, Jade. (2018) Socioeconomic Status. https://jadecourtenay.wordpress.com/
Deck-Horvath, Carly. (2018) Self- Story #3- Gender and Sexism. https://cdh.home.blog/